copyright 2001 Doug Robinson
Everybody Likes a Challenge
Ive got to tell you, doctor. Ive
found someone new. Her name is Julia.
Tell me about her.
Shes wonderful in every way. Shes sweet, shes intelligent,
shes beautiful ...
Doctor, I want her so much. I dont think Ive ever wanted anybody
as much as her.
I havent slept with her yet.
So youve just met this woman?
No, weve been going out for a while now.
But no sex.
Shes a virgin. She believes in exclusivity. She only wants to make
love with her husband.
I see. And this doesnt bother you?
No. Not really. Why should it bother me?
Well. You told me you left your last girlfriend because you couldnt
have sex with her often enough. Because she lost almost all interest in
sex after a few months. Right?
That wasnt the only reason.
But it was the most important one, right?
One of the most important.
And in fact youve told me that this has always been your experience
with women. That they lose interest in sex after a few months.
So now youre dating a virgin who wont have sex with you at
all, and it doesnt bother you?
Well, of course I have hopes.
Of marrying her?
No. Who said anything about marrying? Of breaking down her defenses.
Convincing her to have premarital sex with you.
Premarital? That makes it sound like were going to get married.
All right, extramarital. Sex out of wedlock.
So this excites you? Breaking down her defenses?
Of course. Everybody likes a challenge.
So hows it going with Julia? Are
you two still together?
Absolutely. Ive asked her to be my wife.
I take it your plan to break down her defenses didnt work?
Of course it did!
What, youve slept with her?
No, but she agreed to marry me!
So youre marrying her just so shell have sex with you.
Of course not. Im marrying her because I love her. But once were
married, shell have sex with me.
But just now you implied that marrying her was the culmination of your
plan to break down her defenses.
Did I? I didnt mean it that way.
Youre what, 34? 35?
And never been married.
Have you ever wanted to get married before now?
Its occurred to me.
But have you ever wanted to?
Not really, I guess.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
Youve never heard that saying?
It used to be pretty common. Mothers would tell their daughters that,
to get them to stay virgins till their wedding nights.
Yeah. The idea was that men will do anything for sex, so you should withhold
it till marriage. That way you can trick them into marrying you.
You think Julias tricking me?
No, not necessarily. I dont know her.
I think that old attitude, which seems to have died out more or less since
the sixties, was based on a certain view of masculine psychology.
Really? What view?
That a man will do anything for sex, and therefore can be led around by
So are you implying that thats true of me? I can be led around by
So youre discounting the possibility
that Im just in love with Julia, and thats why I want to marry
I discount every possible explanation. That doesnt mean it isnt
true. Im just considering other possibilities as well.
Well, stop looking. The only explanation that counts here is that I love
her, and want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Let me ask you this. Every other woman youve ever been with for
more than six months has gotten tired of sex.
Mind, I dont think thats true of every woman; I think maybe
youve had some bad luck. But it does happen.
What if it happens with Julia?
How can you be sure, till youve slept with her for six months?
Shes so passionate!
You said Kirsten was passionate too, at first. And that was when you were
sleeping with her.
But Kirsten was sort of playfully passionate. It was like a big game to
her. Julia is very, well ... intense. Sort of smolderingly intense. I
cant imagine that intensity waning in her.
What if it does? Or what if it turns into an intense unwillingness to
It wont. Trust me. You dont know her.
I dont want to say I told
you so, doctor, but ... I told you so!
What? You look like you just won the lottery.
It was a lovely wedding, by the way. Thanks for inviting me.
Yeah, yeah, youre welcome. But listen!
What? Fireworks on your wedding night?
Im glad for you.
Dont sound so blasé. I know what youre thinking: sex
is always hot at first. But this was different!
How was it different?
She was a wild woman in bed. Thrashing around, moaning, screaming. Pounding
me on the shoulders, clawing at my back.
And when she came, I think she almost blacked out.
Well, she says she doesnt remember the end. And it did look like
she might have blacked out. Maybe just for a second.
So youre sure she had an orgasm?
Of course! What else could it have been?
I dont know. It just strikes me as unusual for a virgin to have
an orgasm on her wedding night.
But I told you, doctor, Julia is so passionate! This is exactly what Id
expect of her!
If you dont mind my asking, what were you doing when she almost
Making love, I told you.
But what exactly?
Im not sure what you mean.
Were you, uh, stimulating her clitoris?
I dont know, I guess I must have been, the way she got off.
But you didnt have your finger or tongue on it.
No. We were making love.
Making love, meaning fucking?
And did you try to rub or lick her clitoris?
A little, yeah. But she wouldnt let me. She was sort of embarrassed
about that stuff down there.
But, you know, she was a virgin, give her time, right? Shell learn.
And when exactly did she have this black-out reaction?
What do you mean?
When in relation to your orgasm?
I dont know, just before it, I guess. Thats what made it so
So tell me, hows Julia?
Fine, just fine.
As passionate as ever. Of course its only been three months. But
Has she blacked out again?
Not every time. Almost, though.
Does this worry her?
A little, I guess. It bothers her that I have to tell her how wonderful
it was, afterwards. That she doesnt remember.
It worries me too. Its not normal.
But thats the great thing about it, doctor! Most women just lie
there; Julia is like a wild animal! If normal means just lying there,
I dont want her to be normal!
Is she still blacking out at the same
moment during sex? Just before you climax?
Sometimes long before?
Well, I dont know about long before. But it does happen, I guess.
Like, fairly early on.
And does she snap out of it right away?
But usually not?
Well. Shes usually out for a minute or two, I guess.
Which means that, when she passes out early, you do end up climaxing while
shes just lying there.
And this doesnt worry you?
Doctor, I guess I am getting a little
I was wondering when that would happen. Youve held out against my
worries for months now.
Well, new things keep happening.
Well, shes started blacking out other times too. Not just in bed.
The other day she was standing at the sink washing dishes and I came up
behind her, cupped her breasts and kissed her neck. She slumped in my
arms, her head lolled forward before I could catch it and banged on the
Ouch. Did she hurt herself?
No. Just raised a little bump. But she was out for a couple of minutes.
Yes, this is very worrisome.
And then theres the drooling.
Shes been drooling?
Just during sex.
Well, doctor, you were right.
Yes. The tests all confirmed it.
So do they have her on medication?
And is it helping?
No more seizures?
Thats good, right?
Shes lost all interest in sex, hasnt she.
Yes. You knew this?
I suspected as much. Ive heard of epilepsy cases like this.
Maybe a different medication, though? Please, doctor, there must be something.
I dont think so. Sorry.